So as
I’m reading the narration into a tape recorder, it started to dawn on me. I’m not
lazy. I’m not stupid. I’m dyslexic..."
Until
recently, my reach was always beyond my grasp. I had dreams…I was not the best
student in the world, and my parents were strict. So I would dream a lot about
grasping, but I spent most of my time merely reaching. And it was difficult to
fathom the fact that I could grasp.
I’m 42
years old, and I’m very proud to say that my self image is here! It’s around my
collarbone: for a long time it was around my ankles and I spent a lot of time
pulling it up. That was at a time when I was known as lazy and not living up to
my potential.
The
idea going around in my head at that time was that I might be stupid. How could
this be happening to me? My parents came from
The
headmaster of my high school sent me to a psychiatrist because he wanted to
know why I wasn’t achieving. So the psychiatrist said to my parents, who took
copious notes, “The boy has to learn to focus!” Hooray, the problem was solved,
I knew what to do. I went to the stationary store and got myself some
highlighters…Blue and yellow. And I went home and I highlighted every work in
the book. And it was still Greek to me! I didn’t get it; alright, maybe I had
brain damage.
And I
didn’t want to have brain damage but I tell you, the thought gave me comfort.
And it gave me even greater comfort as keeping up with my class became harder
and harder. I went to a private school in New York City, with a lot of guys who
wore cordovan shoes, blue blazers, grey slacks, and a tie to school every
day…they were going to Princeton. They wrote notes in the margins of the books
they were reading for class...what were they writing?
So do
you know what I did? I took a glass of water and sprinkled drops of it on the
page…so the book looked used. I never wrote anything in my book except my
name…very neatly.
For me
math is out of the question. When I got change, I trusted a lot. I had no idea
how much was in my palm.
Somewhere
inside me the thought kept gnawing at me that something was wrong; something
about what the outside world was telling me was not connecting with what my
inside world knew. Except that my inside knowledge kept me moving forward,
because I wanted to be somebody. I was tired of being a dope!
And
then this surface view of myself kept throwing self doubt the size of apartment
buildings in front of me, so that getting to be “somebody” was a little slower
than I wanted it to be.
Because
of my character on Happy Days I was asked to narrate a film for students with
learning disabilities in 1976. It was called “Everybody has a Song”. Of course
I wanted to help these poor kids with this problem! So as I’m reading the
narration into a tape recorder, it started to dawn on me. I’m not lazy. I’m not
stupid. I’M DYSLEXIC!!! Who knew? Nobody knew when I was growing up.
So as
an adult I’m standing here not understanding all the concepts of the Isosceles
Triangle…But, I learned to compensate. I learned to listen to my instincts,
that if you will it, it is not a dream. If you are able to communicate your
feelings, you too, can speak an international, very articulate language. I
learned to problem solve. My friends would always have a social problem, and
since I took most of my cues from the physical world around me, I was able to
sit with them and tell them how they got into the problem, what it was doing to
them, and how they could get out of trouble. I had no idea how I know this
stuff, but lots of times I was right and it felt very good that I was able to
do something for them!
When I
was growing up no one knew that dyslexia might have been caused by genetics.
But the fact is a lot of you do know this now. Because you do, you understand
the best teacher is not necessarily the one who deals with the most facts, but
who effectively allows the student to come to grips with the best part of themselves.
Throughout
history the same thoughts keep coming up. Thank God for our difficulties;
because through them we find ourselves! And because of difficulties we find we
are not alone. It gave me great comfort to hear how hard it is for other people
to do the same things I can’t.
(Article taken from L.D.A.A. CALGARY NEWSLETTER, PERSPECTIVES, Vol. 17, No. 3, January 1989. Henry Winkler, former star of "Happy Days", delivered his message on dyslexia at the 1988 Conference of the Orton Dyslexia Society, Southern California Branch, Los Angeles Permission from Evan Chesler, Executive Producer, Everybody Has a Song).